It’s been a very busy — and milestoney — week and a half.
JJ went trick-or-treating for the first time…
…We hosted his 3rd birthday party for a dozen or so kids (I lost count after a while)…
…I performed “My 2 Daddies (Can Beat Up Your 1)”* at my chorus’ annual retreat… And won the Judges Award!
And tonight is the Presidential election. Hitting even closer to home (literally and figuratively) — a big decision regarding our family rests in the hands of our fellow Marylanders…
That’s a little photo I whipped up for my Facebook page, along with this message:
I realize the vast majority of my Facebook friends support same-sex marriage, but we ALL have family members, neighbors, co-workers, etc. that might not. So if you know someone in Maryland that might be on the fence, feel free to use our family as an example of ones that would benefit/suffer depending on how they vote.
(PS: And in case you question my little “ad,” as exploiting my child for political purposes, it wasn’t US that wanted to put our equality to a vote…)
I had wanted to do a lot more — I even considered swiping a neighbor’s “Vote for 6” sign, seeing as how we had so much going on these last couple of weeks and didn’t have time to pick up our own. But aside from making a contribution early on in the campaign, I think we’ve probably had the most impact by just being a family. Being out there in the community — hosting birthday parties, trick-or-treating, shopping for groceries, taking family walks through the neighborhood. Living our lives as if we ARE married, regardless of what others think or the law books say.
To be honest, my everyday life won’t change much if the law gets overturned. It would be great to have all the protections in place for us and JJ, but many of those we’ve already set in place on our own. What does bother me is if the law gets defeated (as it has once already, and has been in many, many states), is the feeling of being officially and legally rejected in my own state. The realization that when push came to shove and when forced to choose, my fellow Marylanders might decide, nope — you’re not worthy. You’re not good enough. Your son is not deserving of the same security as others.
But I’m hopeful. Americans ARE continuing to rise up and be good human beings. Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, New York, New Hampshire, DC and good old Iowa. I’m hopeful because I have to be — it’s part of my job as a Dad.
And oh yeah, JJ’s actual birthday is Nov. 7 — wouldn’t having a couple of married Dads be an awesome birthday present?!?! Fingers crossed, and please vote YES on Question 6!
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*Stay tuned… a recording is being made, and hope to share it with you all soon!
I’ll admit that as a good liberal/progressive, I’ve signed my share of online petitions over the years. But I’ve grown a bit weary as they come at you so hard and fast through every online avenue imaginable. And often with horrendous spelling.
However, I did come across two petitions from Change.org (one of the more reputable sources of online petitioning) that definitely hit home. They relate to Design and Daddyhood, respectively, so I’m setting up the soapbox here at the blog today.
The first is in response to reports of extremely unhealthy immoral conditions at Chinese factories producing Apple products such as the iPad and iPhone. I had initially heard about it on The Daily Show (the juicy part starts at around the 1:50 mark):
These atrocities have also been reported on by This American Life and CBS News. Why does this example of Chinese inhumanity bug me more than others? Because Apple has always touted itself as being different: mindful of the human condition, a friend of the misunderstood genius, and above all a responsible business. I won’t go into all the ways I’ve loved Apple over the years (you can read that here). But suffice it say that I — like any lifelong Mac user, as well as the legion of newcomers to the fold — have come to expect more.
Here’s the blurb I wrote to accompany my signature:
I’ve been using Apple products exclusively since 1990. All my computers, iPod, iPad, iPhone, even AppleTV. When Steve Jobs passed, I was heartbroken. His vision has inspired and motivated me my entire professional life. This is a blight on his memory and goes against everything Apple has ever stood for. Please remedy this immediately or risk losing your reason for existing — your loyal Mac Users.
Read more about the petition, as well as sign, comment and share by clicking the graphic below:
The second petition relates to the long, ongoing battle regarding same-sex marriage, specifically in my state of Maryland. A couple of times we’ve gotten close to becoming the 8th state/district to grant equal marriage rights to all its citizens, but alas have fallen short. The issue has been brought up again by our wonderfully supportive governor, Martin O’Malley, but it’s still going to be a long, arduous process. I implore you (especially you fellow Marylanders) to not only sign this petition, comment, and share it all over Facebook and Twitter, but to contact your local representative to voice your support for my family and many, many others like it who are second-class citizens in this particular area.
Comment posted with my signature:
My partner and I have been together for almost 15 years; more than half of that we’ve lived in Maryland; we’ve been fathers of a beautiful boy for the last 2 years. Please do all you can to help ensure our family gets all of the same rights and protections as every other citizen of this wonderful state!
Read more about this petition and sign, comment and share by clicking the graphic below:
Thanks for your time and support. Now back to your regularly scheduled programming…
Mommy networking site Circle of Moms is shining the spotlight on dad bloggers, sponsoring a reader-powered list of the Top 25 Daddy Blogs. The Moms must’ve known how competitive men can be — the list is already long and the votes are racking up.
Being a fledgling blogger, I’m not holding my breath to make it very high on the list. Nevertheless, I’d still love your vote! And better yet, to have you tell all your friends, family, coworkers and strangers you pass on the street about Designer Daddy. The end goal, as always, is more readers! (Okay, it’s really a children’s book deal and a world-famous column on fatherhood, but I gotta start somewhere.)
VOTE HERE! Voting ends April 5.
And thanks, as always, for reading and commenting my ramblings!
(PS: You can vote once a day. Because I know you have nothing better to do than vote for my blog…)