SuperLunchNotes: Back to School, or Why I Stopped Telling My Son I Loved Him

September 25, 2014 | By Brent Almond | DAD STUFF, DESIGN STUFF, POP CULTURE

Holy Time-loss, Batman! Has it really been a year already?! For the first week of school, I wanted to come out strong on the lunch notes, as this was the start of my son’s second year of preschool. So I went back to where it all started…Batman. His image is the most iconic, most adaptable, and rife with puns to be played upon. I threw in some other favorites (Cyborg, GL), Daddy’s favorite (Aquaman, duh) and a first appearance from Booster Gold, who we’d watched on an episode of Batman: The Brave & the Bold recently.

And finally, for good measure I added “♥ Daddy” as a signature. This was to be a short-lived addition…

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BACK TO SCHOOL WEEK-ish: August 28 – September 5, 2014

Batman  |  Green Lantern  |  Mr. Fantastic  |  Aquaman  |  Cyborg  |  Booster Gold

Designer Daddy Batman

Designer Daddy Green Lantern Mr. Fantastic

designer daddy - aquaman

Designer Daddy - cyborg - booster gold

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ALIEN-ish WEEK: September 9 – 12, 2014

Ben 10  |  Kilowog  |  Supergirl  |  Godzilla

Designer Daddy - Ben 10 - Kilowog - Supergirl

We had spent the weekend watching some episodes of Ben 10 (check it out on Cartoon Network for some extremely imaginative characters), so on Monday I made a Ben 10 lunch note. He’s not an alien himself, but he turns into a bunch of them (10, to be exact), so he kicked off Alien Week. I followed up with Kilowog from the Green Lantern Corps, and then everyone’s second-favorite Kryptonian, Supergirl.

On the way home that day, I asked Jon (as I often do) if he liked his note.

“Yes…” he answered tentatively. He continued, “…but why it say ‘love Daddy’ on it?”

“Because Daddy loves you!” I answer cheerily.

“But I don’t want it to say ‘love Daddy.’ Urp.

As you may have read from our other recent conversations, I’ve learned not to react too strongly if I want to find out what’s really going on.

“Why not?” I inquire calmly, bracing for a gut punch.

“I don’t know.”

I should have seen that coming. I decide to ask what I’m thinking, “Is it because you don’t want me to tell you I love you?”

“No. You do it ALL. THE. TIME!”

Guilty as charged.

“Did someone make fun of you at school?”

“No.”

I think a little harder, trying to look at things from his perspective, not mine.

“Is it because they’re not as cool with ‘love Daddy’ on them?”

“They’re cool…” he pauses, for dramatic effect (Proud Theatre Dad Moment) “…but when it don’t say ‘love Daddy’ it’s a LOT LOT times cooler.”

I get where he’s coming from. And I can live with that. (Although I thought this “I’m too cool for…” crap wasn’t supposed to happen for a few more years!) I tell him that I’ll not put my signature on the notes anymore, but remind him that I’m still going to tell him I love him as much as I want, whenever I want. He says he can live with that.

Designer Daddy - godzilla

As we near home — since he’s on a roll — Jon makes another request, “On tomorrow’s note, can I have Godzilla?”

“Sure thing, buddy!” Though I cringe a bit as Godzilla’s not technically an alien. How dare my son muck up my theme?!?

He goes on, “…and can he breathe fire? And I want him to say ‘HAVE A ROAR DAY!’

I smile and laugh with pride at my son’s attempt to create a pun like Dad (who studied under Master Punster, Grandpa). But now I’m wondering if I’ve created a monster, and will be doodling requests from here on out…

Come back next week to find out! Same Bat-Time! Same Bat-Channel!

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8 responses to “SuperLunchNotes: Back to School, or Why I Stopped Telling My Son I Loved Him”

  1. Noah-Moore-Goad says:

    He’s growing up so FAST! You are gonna be a MESS at graduation. And rightfully so. He’s perfect.

  2. My notes always have <3 Mom+Dad. (I include Mom because I don't want HER to feel left out or like I'm trying to make it about ME sending the notes.) Here's hoping he never asks for me to take it off. Not sure I'll be able to handle it.

  3. Heather says:

    My ” Love, Mommy” lasted one or two days in Kindergarten. She got teased about it. 🙁

  4. Aw, Brent, you went and made me sad. He’s not even my kid, but now I’m envisioning my own boy saying the same thing eventually.

    Good thing my kids are home schooled. I think that buys me a year or two. Then I’ll get all in-your-face-love by going way over the top.

    That aside, Brent- I enjoy reading your conversations with your son. Every sentence is full of love.

    • Brent Almond says:

      Sorry, didn’t mean to make you sad. Was trying my best not to be sad myself. Not sure it’s working today.

      Glad you enjoy reading the conversations. Here’s to many, many more years of them happening, whether I write about them or not. 🙂
      Brent

  5. Wow! I love the lunch notes you make for your son! I can’t begin to tell you how valuable these are to how you two connect now and in the future. My wife and I have always done “little” things like this for our kids. Our oldest will be a teen soon and I’ll I can tell you is that those little things become bigs things as they grow up!

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