My Big Gay Wedding, Part 2: The Daddy Album

May 8, 2014 | By Brent Almond | DAD STUFF, LGBT STUFF, MAKING MEMORIES

I rarely use the word “perfect,” but our wedding day — long in the planning and exponentially longer in the legalizing — was about as near perfection as it gets. And since I’ve been yammering on and on about it for so long, I wanted to share some (more*) of the highlights of this truly blessed event.

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gay wedding - ceremony

gay wedding - scripture reading

Nick’s sister Rosella read from I Corinthians about love and all it entails, the same passage his other sister Dana had read at our commitment ceremony..

gay wedding - vows

WE DO. The ceremony itself was short and very, very sweet, standing on the steps of our back porch. Nick and I made the same vows to each other as at our commitment ceremony 10 years earlier, but with some father-related additions.

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gay wedding - son and dads

This is everything. Jon’s so often daring and adventurous, but he still needs his daddies to have his back. I love this boy more than I ever thought I could love anything or anyone, and am so grateful to have shared this day with him.

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gay wedding - panorama

Photo by Mike Barnes

gay wedding - bell ringer

WEDDING BELLS. We’d already exchanged rings during our commitment ceremony, so instead of being the ring bearer, Jon was the “bell ringer.” After the service was finished, and we were declared “Husbands, and companions for life,” I called Jon up to ring a big silver bell, which was then echoed by all of the guests and the small bells they received beforehand. You can read the origin of this idea (which was his, by the way) in this post about the day same-sex marriage was legalized in our home state of Maryland.

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gay wedding - smooch

You can bet Daddy and Papa got a smooch in first, but I sure do love this picture of me and my effusively affectionate son. They never outgrow that, right?

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gay wedding - slide

Photo by Soo Park

PARTY TIME! As soon as the formalities were finished, the adults hit the bar and the kids hit the swing set.

gay wedding - backyard

gay wedding - swings 2

I’m attempting to multitask (drinking and pushing) but Jon can tell I’m not using both hands, and is not having it.

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gay wedding - upside down swing

All weddings should be this fun, no?

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gay wedding - frank and mike

CHEERS! After more drinking and some dinner, toasts were given by two of our dearest friends. Frank (seen here being smooched by his husband, Mike) has been one of our best friends for over 15 years. Andrew (below) was one of the first good friends I made as a member of the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington, and he and my other chorus brothers have become a part of our extended family, bringing the number of gay uncles Jon has to near world record status.

gay wedding - andrew

 

gay wedding - bryan

BROTHERLY LOVE. Speaking of uncles… Uncle Bryan and his partner Jon (AKA “Big Jon”) made the trip from Salt Lake City so that he could sing at our wedding. Bryan was going through his own identity crisis at the time of our commitment ceremony, and chose not to attend. While it was disappointing for sure, as soon as he came out and our relationship improved, I couldn’t wait until the day I got legally married and his lovely voice (and spirit) could be part of that celebration. He’s always been my goofy younger brother, but when Bryan opens his mouth to sing it melts my heart and stirs my soul.

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gay wedding - messy boy

At one point I looked over and not only were Jon’s coat, tie and shoes missing, his white shirt was covered with what looked like an exploded bird. Turns out it was a combination of pasta sauce and a whole lot of grape jelly. Serves me right for putting a 4-year old in white.

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gay wedding - backyard party

gay wedding - sisters

FAMILY PHOTOS. One of the first things that attracted me to Papa was his smile. Here he is with his our sisters, Dana and Rosella, who share the same great family trait.

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gay wedding - brothers

I inherited my first sisters, Nick got three brothers out of the deal. Cheesing it up with two of those, Bryan and Brandon.

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gay wedding - big family photo

In addition to our marriage becoming legal and being able to involve Jon in the ceremony, the other big reason for wanting to have a ceremony (as opposed to just a trip to the courthouse) was so more of our family could be included. When we had our ceremony in 2003, only six family members were able to make it. Ten years later, and through a few changes of heart and several births, that number increased to 16. Note Jon and his sassy cousin Maya making silly faces… and the teeny-tiny one behind Jon is his 3-week old cousin Addie. I love this picture so big.

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gay wedding - silly family

We can’t always get Jon to smile, eat, or really do much of what we ask on command. But we can always manage to get this pose to happen. (Note the second white shirt I had on hand for the family photos. No bird guts or grape jelly!)

 

gay wedding - bubbels

Okay, family photos are done — coat, tie and shoes are off again. There are bubbles to be made!

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gay wedding - best friends

Did I mention the weather was ABSOLUTELY perfect? The forecast had called for a 30% chance of rain for the entire span of the wedding, but we didn’t get a drop. Nothing but sunshine and breeze. A small drizzle did start around 8:30, which was right after we got this fun shot in with a gaggle of my chorus brothers and Jonathan (in pink), our good friend and miracle-working wedding planner.

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gay wedding - papa

A quick shot of Papa captured by my friend Soo. Am I the luckiest husband ever, or what?

 

gay wedding - daddy papa and jon

FINAL WORD. Like I said at the start of this post — I almost never use the word “perfect.” Maybe it’s because I’m too cynical or superstitious. Or because it’s too important of a word to use lightly. But between the weather, food, ceremony, music, friends and family — and with my incredible husband and son by my side — I can confidently say, I had the perfect wedding day.

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*Check out my other post of wedding highlights, with lots of cool designery stuff, Part 1: The Designer Album.

Unless noted otherwise, all photos were shot by the fabulous Piper Watson. Please consider her for your next big life event — she’s a wonderful photographer and person!

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12 responses to “My Big Gay Wedding, Part 2: The Daddy Album”

  1. Sarah says:

    Your family is so beautiful and these photos made me cry happy tears.

    I’m recently engaged and suddenly wedding stories make me very emotional. I have always been a supporter of gay marriage but after promising to spend my life with someone else and beginning the plans for my own wedding, I have a much better understanding of how important marriage rights are for everyone. I suddenly feel differently (in a wonderful way) about our relationship and I have an emotional understanding of what marriage means for so many people. It just feels different – in ways that are so hard to put into words.

    I am so happy that you were able to have your perfect day. Congratulations!

    • Brent Almond says:

      Sarah:
      Thanks you for your very thoughtful comments! I’ve had several people ask kind of jokingly if we feel any differently. The short answer is no, but the long-term answer is definitely. It makes a difference (if even just a tiny bit) in how I think of our relationship, and it certainly makes a difference in how our family is viewed (and protected) in the eyes of the law. Which makes us rest just a bit easier. 🙂

      And good luck planning your wedding and I hope it’s wonderful! Come back and share photos on the Facebook page if you want! 🙂

      http://www.facebook.com/DesignerDaddy

  2. Looks like it was a perfect day and I am so happy for you and your family. You can just feel the love through these pictures!

  3. Noah Moore-Goad says:

    This Day

    This day
    We celebrated
    First dates and
    Last moments
    And everything between

    This day
    We exchanged
    Our greatest commitments
    To each other, and our world
    Our world we made
    We two together

    This day
    We remembered
    With peals of bell tones
    Rung by our family
    By blood and by choice
    They ring for us still

    This day
    We will carry forward
    Onwards to the next
    Bells of love and laughter
    On this day
    This day was made to last

    • Brent Almond says:

      Noah, so very beautiful!
      You really captured the essence of the day and what it meant to us.
      xoxo
      Brent, Nick & Jon

      • Noah Moore-Goad says:

        Brent, Nick and JJ-

        I am so glad you liked it. I don’t usually plan to write poems, they are almost always brought about by inspiration. What could be more inspiring than your family on this, your wedding celebration. It was wonderful to have a glimpse at the world you two have created. I felt like I was there with you, which is what I tried to convey through my little verse. I hope the bells never stop ringing.

        Much love,
        Noah

  4. what shines through the most is the love. The happiness a close second. I love the one of your son looking at his shirt with food in each hand. That face…could just eat him up.

  5. rosella says:

    Best wedding ever!!! Love my extended happy family! xoxo We are amazing!!

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